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Boundaries...

Good Morning!  It's another gray winter morning here and there is something too dreary about gray.  Okay, that's totally off topic, except that it gives you my frame of mind as I write.

I'm thinking about relationships this year, but I've been reminded of the importance of boundaries this morning.  So, I'm exploring boundaries in relationship and realizing just how different they are with every person.

I'll use our children as an example of what I mean.  They're both grown with families of their own.  They both need me to listen to and hear them.  The similarities end there!  What I can say to one will offend the other.  One will expect much input and the other will feel corrected with the same input.  I know this because I've had years of being in relationship with them (and I'm still practicing).

This is not about how they were taught.  It's about them, their perspectives, and their desires.  In order to love them well, I have to know them well enough to recognize their boundaries and when I'm breaching their boundaries.

Then there's the other side of relationship boundaries.  My boundaries.  They must be healthy also.  Who do I allow to breach my boundaries in unhealthy ways?  Or who do I feel the need to allow to breach my boundaries for whatever reason?

So, this morning, I'm praying about boundaries.  My boundaries need to be set by the LORD and I need to allow them to be flexible.  I'm not to apologize for them.  I need to respect the LORD enough to respect His boundaries for me.  When I do, I won't breach my boundaries or anyone else's.

Last, but far from least, I'm finding that I need to live fully within the boundaries the LORD gives me.  Whether there is little space or much space, I'm to live in all of it.

Okay, I've shared my newest scary.  I would love for you to share anything the LORD's taught you about boundaries in different relationships.  I'll choose not to be offended but seek the LORD's perspective on how it may or not apply to any of my relationships.

Have an amazing day!  May the joy of the LORD be your strength and mine!!!


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